Can you Really trust your Mom?

Becoming a Women

As a young woman coming into my own, I relied on my mother for all kinds of advice and direction. She was my firm and solid rock of authority for what I should do and my approach to things. I remember getting my first real job and how I felt when I was employed one year. As I started learning new things and experiencing places and things my mother had not I realized somewhere along the way I had stopped asking her about how I should approach opportunities presented to me.

I had to rely on others who had experienced where I was trying to go for the advice I would normally get from mommy. My voice of direction had migrated from my trusted mom to trusted professionals. Of course, you can trust mom’s advice, but it has to be put in its proper perspective as life begins to happen to you. You will always need someone who will push you and hold you accountable.

New Leadership

When you decide what you want to achieve in life and realize you don’t have the skills to get you there. You must begin to look for new leadership to guide, train, and help you get the skills you need to accomplish your goals. You look for those who have been where you are trying to get. There are so many that you could choose from that it can almost seem to discourage you from coming out of the gate to find the right person for you. The process of selecting a Coach or Mentor is not that hard. I will outline some simple guidelines you can follow to help you in your quest.

How to choose

First look for someone who specializes in the right field or area of expertise. If you want a coach to help you with personal relationships or issues, then hire a life coach. If you’re an executive and want coaching for work specific problems, then look for an executive coach. If you want someone to be able to talk to you, that would be a counselor or therapist. I am simplifying to demonstrate the point. However, there are coaches in every niche imaginable.
When you are looking for someone to help you navigate through the many changes of business life you are not looking for another mom. Nor are you looking for a therapist who decides to call him/herself a coach. If you want a therapist, psychologist, then hire one. Coaching, Therapy, and counseling are very different.
Second look for someone who has specific training and skills in the area you need skills and training. If you want to become a paid speaker, you look for someone who is a paid speaker to coach you. The more doors the person you consider has been through, the more they can offer you in the area of personal experience.
If you want to be an international speaker one of the characteristics you want to see on the information sheet of your prospective coach is someone who has spoken internationally.
I hope you find these nuggets helpful.







Confusion Frustration Change

Confused Frustrated and Ready for Change

Lack of clarity is one of the areas of life that breeds frustration. When you are not sure how to bring your dreams and visions to reality it leaves you in the prison of going in circles. While many can live their entire lives in this prison you are about to receive your release.

Being in this place leaves you with a lack of understanding and in the realm of uncertainty. You find yourself looking at the distance between where you are and where you want to be and you are left bewildered as to how to get there. Actually you are closer than you realize to clarity and the steps to living your dreams. Realizing that there are things you just don’t know is the beginning of getting the knowledge needed to move you forward.

Looker or Leaper

Once you stop being a looker and decide to leap you will find that everything you need is within reach. Confusion can make you nervous and afraid to take the steps needed to make your way to clarity. Then there are the people in your circle who are comfortable in confusion. Those voices love to encourage you to settle for less. When you really think about where you want to be and you begin to reach for answers and direction to get you there you just took a major leap. Understand you don’t have to do this on your own or reinvent the wheel, which should bring an immediate relief to you. There are people and resources that have mastered the art of life transformation. They are called Coaches and Coaching Programs.

Clear the Clutter

Confusion is often a sign of mental clutter. Thinking too long or too much without action can cause your mind to be filled with a lot of maybe, and should. Multitasking can be a major culprit contributing to mental clutter. Clear the clutter and you will begin to see rays of clarity break through. Because society has trained us to want everything fast we tend to try to do several things at once and really don’t focus long enough to ever clear our to do list. If you really take an honest look within yourself you may find that you are your greatest challenge. Learn to focus and manage your time better. Set alarms to help you keep your schedule and finish tasks.

Give yourself Permission to..

Lack of understanding leaves you afraid to make the leap, and nervous about change. When opportunity for change knocks and you hesitate or say not now you hold yourself back. Procrastination keeps you living in yesterday and really can help you kill your dreams. Give yourself permission to change. Give yourself permission to be successful. Decide to invest in yourself to achieve your goals. The same intensity that you give to academic study learn to also give to you pursuing your dreams.

Trust your Desire for More

When you clear the clutter from your mind you will see areas within you that are filled with abilities and gifts that are a resource that can be monetized. Feeling unsatisfied with your present life, job, and status in life are a sure sign of desire for more. Trust that desire and get ready to work towards your better place. You are a gift. You have a voice. You are a solution. Your life and everything you have lived already is valuable. Write down your thoughts and ideas. See where they lead and follow.

The Panic Attack Barrier to Success

Panic means sudden uncontrollable fear or anxiety, often causing really unthinking behavior. When you panic it causes alarms to go up making you aware of danger. You get anxious, worried, a feeling of dread comes over you, and you become filled with apprehensions. I love synonyms because adding them to our dialog brings greater understanding of our thoughts regarding our insights. Some synonyms for panic are, alarm, anxiety, dread, terror, hysteria, dismay, and apprehension to name a few.

What happens when you decide to change?

When you decide to step out of what has always been familiar and what you’ve always done and sometimes even done well, you can expect negative feedback. Negative input can throw you into a panic attack and persuade you that you should just be satisfied in your current place in life. To make those feelings go away you can decide to give up on your dreams and desires.

A different look at PANIC.

Let’s talk about this from a different perspective. I love using acronyms. My acronym for P. A. N. I. C. is (Pain Accompanying Negative Influence Carriers).

Fatal Attractions.

When you decide there is more for you in life than what many settle for and you hire a coach, start a business, or decide to change where you focus your energy to develop something new you will attract people who are PANIC Attack Agents. These types of people make a point of telling you what you are reaching for will not work. You are being foolish. You will waste time. You are throwing away money. What can help you push forward is realizing (at these major turning points in your life) that many of the most successful entrepreneurs had to make similar decisions and then give themselves permission to step out on unfamiliar grounds with determination to make their dreams realities. Your circle of influencers could be filled with PANIC (Pain Accompanying Negative Influence Carriers). There is a way to deal with the voice of this type of person in your current circle.

Change your influencers.

Decide to change your circle of influencers. Give yourself permission to leap. And refuse to let fear stop you from following your dreams. Be ok stepping out on ideas or goals that scare you. Most often they are tied directly to your true purpose in this great life we live. Even if it doesn’t work the first time don’t give up. You are built for working hard to accomplish your purpose.

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Beverley Vaughn

Your Redevelopment Catalyst

Awakening Initiatives



Tips to Awaken your Purpose

Awakening is what I do. Its my passion.

Awakening is what I do. My passion is for you finding your purpose. When I reflect on my own personal pathway to purpose the strategies and insights I’ve learned trained and equipped me to get to yours. 

As an Executive Coach and Mentor what I am in this Earth to do is fulfilled through every person and client I help to Awaken their purpose. That’s what pushes me each day. You are my to do list.
I talk to people daily who feel stuck in a downward spiral in life. Maybe you feel this way also. You could also feel like you are living in your purpose now, but I want to let you know probably you could use an elevation of in your mind.
Here are some tips you can use to start that process.  

First decide where you want to be and start making decisions and choices to get you there. No more letting your fear of greater success stop you. And no more excuses. Once you make up your mind, watch how fast you make things happen.  

Second set new objectives. Create a clear vision for what you want to do and where you want to be.  Next set goals with deadlines. Realize it’s your responsibility to follow through.  

Lastly learn to love accountability. Get a group of people around you who want better like you. People who are doing or have done or been where you want to go and what you want to do. Get a new circle of influencers. Focus is a must. Talk to yourself and encourage yourself with positive affirmations about your abilities. 

Please share your thoughts and write your comments here.


Social Media Introduction Glossary — Awakening Initiatives Blog

If you don’t have Social Media presence then you don’t have presence. Today everyone is on Social Media. Grandma has a Social Media account. Today’s culture is a Social Media culture. If you want your business, ministry, event, and basic connection to the world to be effective and influential you must have multiple Social Media sites.

via Social Media Introduction Glossary — Awakening Initiatives Blog

Social Media Introduction Glossary

If you don’t have Social Media presence then you don’t have presence. Today everyone is on Social Media. Grandma has a Social Media account.

Today’s culture is a Social Media culture. If you want your business, ministry, event, and basic connection to the world to be effective and influential you must have multiple Social Media.

If you don’t have Social Media presence then you don’t have presence. Today everyone is on Social Media. Grandma has a Social Media account.

Today’s culture is a Social Media culture. If you want your business, ministry, event, and basic connection to the world to be effective and influential you must have multiple Social Media sites.

There are a many social networks out there today. Lets take a moment to understand terminology on my top three Facebook Twitter and LinkedIn.


Profile – A personal page created for individual use.

Page – This is your business profile or “page” where customers can find your posts and business information.

Page “Like” – When a fan “likes” your page, anything you post or update will show up in their news feed.

Activity Log – A log that shows you all of your scheduled content, as well as past content posted to your page.

Insights – This is your analytics hub. You can find all post and page analytics here.

Reach – The number of people who saw your post. This includes the number of people you reached through organic and paid reach.

Organic Reach – The number of people who saw your post.

Paid Reach – The number of people who saw your post due to an ad you paid for.

Engagement – The number of likes, comments, and shares you receive.

Post Clicks – The number of people who clicked on anything in your post. This could include someone clicking on an image with a “see more” call to action or a URL you included.

Post – A term used for sharing content on your Facebook Page.

Text-Only Posts – A post without an image, video, or link.

Multimedia – A post that includes an image or video.

Link – A post that includes a URL.

News Feed – Your news feed is the first thing you see when you log in to Facebook. The feed shows new posts from pages and profiles you’ve “liked.”

Timeline – The stream of updates on your own personal profile or page.

Profile Picture – The image that represents you or your business. This is the smaller photo that shows up alongside all of your posts.

Cover Photo – The 851×315 pixel image found at the top of your page or profile.

“Like” – An engagement function that lets fans give positive feedback on a post.

Comment – This is where you make a comment

Share – The share feature lets you share the content you enjoy with personal Facebook friends.

Message – A private message.

Chat – An instant messenger.

Tab – These are found underneath your cover photo and include the number of friends/fans, photos, and third-party apps you have.

Events – Facebook Events can be created by a page or profile, and are used for parties, business events, and planned chats.

Group – This can be public or private, and gives users the chance to come together to talk about a specific subject in one place.

Friends – A friend is someone who received your friend request and accepted it. Once the request is accepted, you will start seeing their updates in your news feed.

Fans – These are the people who “liked” your business page. A business does not have to take any action for someone to become a fan.

Sponsored Story – This is a message that comes from a friend about them engaging with a page, app, or event that a business, organization, or individual has paid to highlight.

Promoted Post or “Boost” – You can pay to boost a specific post so that it is shown to more friends or fans.

Display Ad – An ad you create that is shown on the right-hand side of Facebook along with other ads.


Tweet – The content you share with your followers.

Handle – This is your “username” on Twitter that appears with an “@” symbol in front of it.

Hashtags – Although they were originally created and supported by Twitter, hashtags are now utilized on Facebook, Pinterest, Instagram, Vine, Google+, and Tumblr. A hashtag is a group of words or phrases (with no spaces), preceded by a # sign (i.e. #ONECON or #CCPin). It is used to tie various social media posts together and relate them to a topic. Topics are sometimes connected to an event, TV show, sporting event, or any happening or trend.

Reply – You can reply directly to a tweet. Only the people following you and the person you’re replying to can see your reply (unless you place a character before the handle at the beginning of the tweet).

Retweet – A way to repost or share someone else’s tweet.

Favorite – This functions just as a Facebook “like” does. You can also use this as a saving tool and go back to your favorites later.

Mention – The act of including someone’s handle in your tweet. That person will then get a notification that they’ve been mentioned.

Direct Message – This is the only way to talk to someone on Twitter privately. You can create these by either starting your tweet with “DM” or going to someone’s profile and using the “message” function.

Feed – This is the first thing you see when you log in to Twitter. New posts from your followers are placed in your feed.

Followers – These are the people who have followed your handle and can see your updates in their feed. You do not have to follow them in order for them to become your follower.

Following – These are the people you follow so you can see their updates in your feed. They do not have to follow you for you to be able to follow them.

Trends – The most commonly used hashtags at that present time are considered trends. They can also be made to pull from a specific location.

Lists – Groupings of your followers that you’ve created and categorized so that you can find them easily.

Connect – A tab where all mentions, replies, retweets, and favorites can be found.

Discover – A tab to search for hashtags, handles, and keywords.

Verified Account – This is used to establish authentic handles of key or public individuals and brands.


Update – Status updates and content that you post.

Profile – Similar to a resume, you add information about you and your job history.

Company Page – A place for businesses to include information about their business and create updates about their business and their industry.

Mention – Just like Facebook and Twitter, you can mention others in your LinkedIn updates.

Connection – An indicator that you and a person are connected to each other.

Degrees – This shows you how you are connected to a person even if it’s through a number of people.

Invitation – Invite someone to join your network and connect with you.

Introduction – A way to introduce yourself to those you are not currently connected to.

Groups – These can be public or private, and can be created by an individual or company. It allows users to come together and talk about a specific subject on one page.

Network – Your connections which also includes the connections of your connections.

Recommendation – A way to recommend a friend/colleague, based on their professional experience, to anyone who views their profile.

Influencers – Key and influential people in your industry that can provide you with great content.

LinkedIn Today – A source for all of your industry news in one place.