Becoming a Women
As a young woman coming into my own, I relied on my mother for all kinds of advice and direction. She was my firm and solid rock of authority for what I should do and my approach to things. I remember getting my first real job and how I felt when I was employed one year. As I started learning new things and experiencing places and things my mother had not I realized somewhere along the way I had stopped asking her about how I should approach opportunities presented to me.
I had to rely on others who had experienced where I was trying to go for the advice I would normally get from mommy. My voice of direction had migrated from my trusted mom to trusted professionals. Of course, you can trust mom’s advice, but it has to be put in its proper perspective as life begins to happen to you. You will always need someone who will push you and hold you accountable.
When you decide what you want to achieve in life and realize you don’t have the skills to get you there. You must begin to look for new leadership to guide, train, and help you get the skills you need to accomplish your goals. You look for those who have been where you are trying to get. There are so many that you could choose from that it can almost seem to discourage you from coming out of the gate to find the right person for you. The process of selecting a Coach or Mentor is not that hard. I will outline some simple guidelines you can follow to help you in your quest.
How to choose
First look for someone who specializes in the right field or area of expertise. If you want a coach to help you with personal relationships or issues, then hire a life coach. If you’re an executive and want coaching for work specific problems, then look for an executive coach. If you want someone to be able to talk to you, that would be a counselor or therapist. I am simplifying to demonstrate the point. However, there are coaches in every niche imaginable.
When you are looking for someone to help you navigate through the many changes of business life you are not looking for another mom. Nor are you looking for a therapist who decides to call him/herself a coach. If you want a therapist, psychologist, then hire one. Coaching, Therapy, and counseling are very different.
Second look for someone who has specific training and skills in the area you need skills and training. If you want to become a paid speaker, you look for someone who is a paid speaker to coach you. The more doors the person you consider has been through, the more they can offer you in the area of personal experience.
If you want to be an international speaker one of the characteristics you want to see on the information sheet of your prospective coach is someone who has spoken internationally.
I hope you find these nuggets helpful.