Can you Really trust your Mom?

Becoming a Women

As a young woman coming into my own, I relied on my mother for all kinds of advice and direction. She was my firm and solid rock of authority for what I should do and my approach to things. I remember getting my first real job and how I felt when I was employed one year. As I started learning new things and experiencing places and things my mother had not I realized somewhere along the way I had stopped asking her about how I should approach opportunities presented to me.

I had to rely on others who had experienced where I was trying to go for the advice I would normally get from mommy. My voice of direction had migrated from my trusted mom to trusted professionals. Of course, you can trust mom’s advice, but it has to be put in its proper perspective as life begins to happen to you. You will always need someone who will push you and hold you accountable.

New Leadership

When you decide what you want to achieve in life and realize you don’t have the skills to get you there. You must begin to look for new leadership to guide, train, and help you get the skills you need to accomplish your goals. You look for those who have been where you are trying to get. There are so many that you could choose from that it can almost seem to discourage you from coming out of the gate to find the right person for you. The process of selecting a Coach or Mentor is not that hard. I will outline some simple guidelines you can follow to help you in your quest.

How to choose

First look for someone who specializes in the right field or area of expertise. If you want a coach to help you with personal relationships or issues, then hire a life coach. If you’re an executive and want coaching for work specific problems, then look for an executive coach. If you want someone to be able to talk to you, that would be a counselor or therapist. I am simplifying to demonstrate the point. However, there are coaches in every niche imaginable.
When you are looking for someone to help you navigate through the many changes of business life you are not looking for another mom. Nor are you looking for a therapist who decides to call him/herself a coach. If you want a therapist, psychologist, then hire one. Coaching, Therapy, and counseling are very different.
Second look for someone who has specific training and skills in the area you need skills and training. If you want to become a paid speaker, you look for someone who is a paid speaker to coach you. The more doors the person you consider has been through, the more they can offer you in the area of personal experience.
If you want to be an international speaker one of the characteristics you want to see on the information sheet of your prospective coach is someone who has spoken internationally.
I hope you find these nuggets helpful.







The Panic Attack Barrier to Success

Panic means sudden uncontrollable fear or anxiety, often causing really unthinking behavior. When you panic it causes alarms to go up making you aware of danger. You get anxious, worried, a feeling of dread comes over you, and you become filled with apprehensions. I love synonyms because adding them to our dialog brings greater understanding of our thoughts regarding our insights. Some synonyms for panic are, alarm, anxiety, dread, terror, hysteria, dismay, and apprehension to name a few.

What happens when you decide to change?

When you decide to step out of what has always been familiar and what you’ve always done and sometimes even done well, you can expect negative feedback. Negative input can throw you into a panic attack and persuade you that you should just be satisfied in your current place in life. To make those feelings go away you can decide to give up on your dreams and desires.

A different look at PANIC.

Let’s talk about this from a different perspective. I love using acronyms. My acronym for P. A. N. I. C. is (Pain Accompanying Negative Influence Carriers).

Fatal Attractions.

When you decide there is more for you in life than what many settle for and you hire a coach, start a business, or decide to change where you focus your energy to develop something new you will attract people who are PANIC Attack Agents. These types of people make a point of telling you what you are reaching for will not work. You are being foolish. You will waste time. You are throwing away money. What can help you push forward is realizing (at these major turning points in your life) that many of the most successful entrepreneurs had to make similar decisions and then give themselves permission to step out on unfamiliar grounds with determination to make their dreams realities. Your circle of influencers could be filled with PANIC (Pain Accompanying Negative Influence Carriers). There is a way to deal with the voice of this type of person in your current circle.

Change your influencers.

Decide to change your circle of influencers. Give yourself permission to leap. And refuse to let fear stop you from following your dreams. Be ok stepping out on ideas or goals that scare you. Most often they are tied directly to your true purpose in this great life we live. Even if it doesn’t work the first time don’t give up. You are built for working hard to accomplish your purpose.

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Beverley Vaughn

Your Redevelopment Catalyst

Awakening Initiatives